Guilt trip? No, thanks

So I’m reading a blog by a fellow Christian who is talking about why we should all find time to do X (I’m deliberately leaving that blank, as my grumble isn’t about that specific thing she mentions – it’s about … Continue reading →

She meant well

So I wrote recently about not having any brilliant ideas for something pithy or profound to put on my mum’s tombstone, but having been home for a visit and had some chats about her with my niece, I suddenly thought: … Continue reading →

Confessions of a Paperophile

I grew up on sci fi that promised a paperless office by 2000 or something, and when it comes to offices I think that would have been cool. I spent a huge chunk of my life shifting papers in offices, … Continue reading →

Being still doesn’t necessarily mean being still.

I used to think that being still meant sitting down and not moving. Eyes shut to avoid distractions, or eyes looking at stuff that I find helpful to stillness, like a blank wall, or a river, or an open sky … Continue reading →

Being the one who understands

Here’s something I’ve just realised about myself. I like being the one who understands. I often am, which is good because it’s helpful to people, everyone likes being understood and there’s a lot of people walking around feeling misunderstood so … Continue reading →

if I stay in my shell I won’t get hurt but I won’t get hugged either

I have always, as long as I can remember, felt like an alien, like someone who doesn’t fit in. Socially awkward. Easily tongue-tied. Very often feeling like I don’t know what normal people would say in a given situation and … Continue reading →

On being peopled-out

I was talking to a friend on the phone recently and she said: I’m not an introvert, I really like people. Which points me to one of those common misunderstandings about introverts. The reason I get “peopled out” is nothing … Continue reading →

Why do we do this to ourselves

Why do we do this to ourselves

Hitting ourselves over the head
again and again
because
of the voice that says

The Game

How much will you pay
for that nice warm feeling
how much for a temporary
short-lived glow
of feeling as though
everyone likes you
…

Hey, do you know this woman?

I was talking with a friend recently about the process we go through in letting people into our lives, allowing them glimpses of what we’re really like on the inside – he prefers to be cautious with new people, testing … Continue reading →