not the essay I’m supposed to be writing

taking a break from essay preparation because I just realised why I’m hating it so much and what I really deeply need to do right now. It’s a bit like taking a break from, say, sorting through a pile of … Continue reading →

It’s easy, they say: just don’t be a jerk.

If you hang out on social media for any length of time, you’ll come across a variation on this supposedly simple rule. And I’d love to be able to say yeah, sure, it’s simple, why can’t people… but I know … Continue reading →

things I didn’t say last night

I’m getting better at keeping my mouth shut and not snapping at people when they say things that annoy me. Also not correcting people whenever they say something stupid. But I still have a blog, so here I can say … Continue reading →

knowing who I am

various moments today when I cringed as I saw myself in the mirror – and I don’t mean physically: I mean seeing glimpses of the ugliness in my heart… hearing myself speak about other people in a voice full of … Continue reading →

I hope you dance, she said.

There was a course I was doing about a decade ago where our main tutor introduced us to a song that was meant to encourage us: it was all about grasping our chances and going for it – “when you … Continue reading →

let’s get real about online friendships

because I recently came across yet another article online offering supposedly wise advice about not getting too glued to your phone and spending more time with the people around you, who are apparently “real” in a way that your social … Continue reading →

tired of being told how to woman.

I loved this so much that I retweeted it, with the comment: well, yeah, obviously, you say it as if mind reading was difficult. and yes, it was a joke, but I loved it because I’m a woman and it … Continue reading →

Yes, I’m missing church (in more ways than one)

I’m sitting at home on a Sunday evening, at the time when I’m used to being in church, and it feels weird. Those of you who have been following the story for a while may remember that a couple of … Continue reading →

a random xmas medley

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I’ve been having a quiet day in and getting all sorts of little things done but not finding it in me to get on with the big thing I was hoping to get on with today, so I’ve decided to … Continue reading →

breakfast/breakrules

I got up this morning and decided to do something I hadn’t done in ages – a less hurried way of doing breakfast, starting my day in a more leisurely way after a busy week, allowing myself the luxury of … Continue reading →