Why I’m multiplying less and dividing more

I wrote some time ago about some of the issues to do with using Multiply for blogging, and it was soon after this that I came to realise that I needed to shift gear here, to change the way I operate this blog – not to totally stop, but to make this into more of a place where I hang out with friends and less of a soapbox.

Partly it’s to do with relationships. If I use this place as a soapbox, a place to express my opinions about anything and everything (as I did for a while), I feel this can place a large burden on the friendships I have here. Friends out there in “real life” don’t have to hear what I’ve got to say about each and every subject all the time, even my husband doesn’t have to put up with that! I think it might be healthier to separate out my soapbox activities, so those who want to read them can choose to visit my “real blogs” but they won’t get bombarded with that stuff in their Multiply inbox. Other blogging platforms allow you various ways of subscribing to a blog you want to read regularly, and there is always rss, so those who want to keep up to date with my rants can easily do so.

Which leads me to another reason why I prefer to post some of my stuff elsewhere, in places that are specifically designed as blogging platforms (unlike Multiply, which was designed as a social networking site) – those places offer a subscription facility, whereas Multiply insists on a mutual relationship, where if someone wants to get regular updates on my posts in their Multiply inbox the only way to make that happen is if I agree to add that person as a contact, which I refuse to do if I don’t know them and/or am not interested in reading their posts. I won’t compromise my privacy for the sake of a stranger reading my posts – that’s too high a price to pay. (Those of us who hang out in muds know we’ve been begging Multiply for ages to set up a non-mutual relationship type, but so far – nada.)

And the other humungous advantage of places like that (e.g. WordPress or Blogger) is that I have the option to choose to allow outsiders to comment. (Yes, this is another feature some of us have been begging Multiply for.) When I post something here that I want the whole world to read, I can increase exposure by, for instance, tweeting it or linking to it on facebook, but those who visit and read are then faced with the requirement to join Multiply if they want to comment. And yes, joining Multiply is free and easy and you might say, why not – but many people feel they’ve already got accounts on enough different sites and they don’t really want another one. If they’ve never heard of Multiply (and let’s face it, most people haven’t) then what is their incentive? They’d need to feel very strongly about commenting, and so by posting here I’m losing potential comments from those who would have happily said something if there wasn’t this obstacle in their way.

The other issue is that of compartmentalising, which I think can be helpful in attracting more readers. I think the pick ‘n mix approach which I tried here is fine for people who know me/like me/like my style of writing etc – people who are interested in reading whatever I have to say, no matter what the subject, or at least most of what I have to say… But let’s face it, we live in a rather busy world, most people don’t have a lot of time on their hands, so if you come across a blog that isn’t about a particular subject you’re interested in, why would you read it? If it’s about this, that and the other, there’s got to be something about the particular blogger that grabs you enough. And I think it would be a bit arrogant of me (as well as being unrealistic) to assume that many people will feel that way about my writing.

So with that in mind, I’ve been gradually developing a few different blogs, each one with a different kind of agenda. Here’s the way I see it right now (I say right now, because I am still working on it, I don’t feel I’m quite there yet, it’s still in a state of flux):

(Leaving aside my blogging in Hebrew, as it’s not relevant to most people reading this)

  • I’ve set up the Church Laundry blog (on WordPress) to talk about issues that specifically concern Christians – sharing my thoughts about the stuff we do and say and think.
  • Also on WordPress, I’ve got a more general blog where I share mainly stuff I’m learning about life, and also about blogging on WordPress.
  • And there’s one I’ve had on Blogger for ages but first it was mainly cross-posts from here and then for a while there was a glitch with cross-posting so I neglected it, but now I’ve decided to revive it and use it as a place for my thoughts and opinions.
  • Oh, and I’ve tentatively started to tweet.

This is where things are at so far. Like I said, it is still in a state of flux. But hopefully this gives you some idea of what all these different blogs are for, so you can choose if you want to follow any of them. (There is another possibility I’m chewing on, but am not sure yet.)

And hopefully this post can also help you understand at least part of my rationale.

p.s. Another difference between Multiply and those other places is the issue of viewing history. Here on Multiply, if someone visits one of my posts whilst logged in, I see them in my viewing history – which is kind of nice for me but… I think that knowing this can sometimes put people off. I remember how shocked I was when I had just joined Multiply, I didn’t know how things worked yet, I clicked on the headshot of someone who had commented on a friend’s guestbook and the next thing I knew I had a message from her on my own guestbook saying thank you for visiting… it felt creepy. Now that I’m aware of this, I sometimes deliberately log out first before visiting the site of a stranger. Whereas on my WordPress and Blogger blogs, I get statistics but not individual data – the system there will tell me, say, that six people viewed my post titled Chocolate: The Meaning of Life but it won’t tell me who. So unless you choose to comment on something, I don’t know which of my posts you have read. And I feel this is actually a more respectful way of doing things.

12 thoughts on “Why I’m multiplying less and dividing more

  1. p.s. Those who have been reading my stuff on Multiply will, now and again, find familiar stuff on my posts elsewhere, as I will sometimes republish an old post, possibly editing a bit, possibly adding more thoughts.


  2. lol… I know people do it as a friendly gesture and I'm sure that's how you mean it too, it's just that at that point I had no idea about viewing history, I was totally new to Multiply and didn't know that people could know I'd visited their site.


  3. lol… one learns from experience… it's happened often enough that I was trying to help someone at the user support group and popped in to their site to have a look at what they were struggling with – guestbook gone wonky, photo album not showing right, that sort of thing – and then they see me in the viewing history and come over and post a friendly comment in my guestbook, as though I'd paid a social visit… it just feels so embarrassing.


  4. ahah i just remembered a long time ago , replying on a mp blog post that comments had disappeared from my guest book when they changed it so you could show 5 to 30 replies and didn't know at that time the person who replied to me worked for multiply but it did creep me out that he was in my view history i then blocked him …LoLdunno if after that he said something about being blocked or i commented something to him but he was like im trying to help … so yes i can see it happens…


  5. yeah and i will only do it if i see that they visited more than just my homepage, like viewed my links or blog posts because sometimes you can accidentally click and end up on a persons home page and not want to do that.


  6. every once in awhile i'll see an article about exactly that. there are people who have quit their jobs and they just blog. i suspect the people who quit their jobs and just youtube make more money, though. but that's just a guess. and you have to be good at it. my girls found a guy that does the cutewinfail every week. and they say that's not his only "channel." (did i use quotes properly there? or am i going to end up in the quotes blog?) with the number of hits he gets, and the number of ads he's running, i suspect youtube is his full time job.


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